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HEADING FOR SALAT 😀

I WAS LATE THOU *covers face*

PEPLUM TOP BY M’ADE

This purple organza lace, is an ASO-EBI well i bought this one because it was one of my sweet client’s wedding, the peplum top is a by-product of the wedding dress (post pictures later) M’ADE designed for her. *money no fit waste* since i missed the wedding, i hope wearing it now isnt too late.

The peplum top is available for order thou *wink*

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Aso-Ebi MADNESS! – A Personal Encounter

I’ll start by clearing up some things; I’ve never been married and I am not engaged so I write this purely from one side of the aisle. I’ve reached the age where everyone around me seems to be getting engaged and even the chronic non-wedding goers like me is forced to attend a few. So imagine my discomfort when I reluctantly decided to attend the wedding of an old school friend and she mentioned that she would send her driver to drop off the aso ebi. Aso- Ebi literally means clothes of the family and I concede that it has evolved to include close friends as well, but I mean, I was not one of her close friends anymore and I felt and still feel that aso ebi should be for your inner-circle of friends.
Anyway, I decided to buy it to support her and since she mentioned that it was Ankara and Aso Oke, I figured it wouldn’t cost me much. I couldn’t have been more WRONG! After her driver dropped it off, I called to find out how much it cost so I could send the money over and she said “Ah just 17 k, I didn’t want to pick expensive aso ebi like other brides I know”. I was dumbfounded. 17,000 Nigerian Naira for Ankara and aso oke??? What really baffled me was that she thought it was cheap. I returned her aso ebi and explained that I couldn’t make the wedding anymore because of family commitments but I did use part of the 17,000 I would have spent to get her a gift.
Can somebody please tell me why brides feel because it is their special day it is everyone else’s as well? For real? Boo, you are a princess to your man alone. Please don’t bankrupt your poor friends because you want to top person X, Y or Z’s aso ebi. My irritation with this issue is well known and I keep hoping someone will tell me something different but instead I hear outrageous stories of 50,000 naira asoebi and even asoebi as high as 80,000. Most of these brides are not even working yet let alone their friends.

I’ve been told that the sale of aso ebi is a way for some brides to raise money for the wedding. To those brides I say: please have the type of wedding your family can afford. DO NOT have your friends pay for your wedding. What is really wrong with our society? Why do we keep turning beautiful aspects of our culture into perverse displays of our greed and fake lifestyles? Aso Ebi was born in the tradition of family members wearing similar clothes to show support for the celebrant. It is not a money making scheme. Remember, not everyone in a family can afford exorbitant prices for clothes and I am sorry (I know I’m going to get heat for this) but it takes away from the whole point when you see two levels of asoebi in one family; one for the rich folks and one for the poorer relatives. I am not referring to situations where there is aso-ebi for young people and one for the older folks; I’m talking about when your cousin Shola or Nneka’s mum is wearing the aso-ebi you picked for members of your staff because the one you chose for so called “family members” is too expensive for them.
It is only fair that I say something to the people who encourage this behaviour. To all FRIENDS, it is okay to tell your friend that her aso-ebi is too expensive. In fact, tell her that I said you will not be bullied into spending half of your salary for her aso-ebi in addition to buying her a bridal shower gift and wedding present. I understand that we get caught up in the euphoria that our friend is finally going to the Promised Land (her hubby’s house) but as friends it is important to call each other to order. For those who go along just to belong… your issue is one for another post.
So, to my yet to be married ladies, please remember that though your wedding day is important, your marriage is most important. Do not bow to pressure from your mum or one of your aunts that sells lace or anyone else for that matter. When picking asoebi, remember that your friends can only wear it for one day. They love you and want to celebrate with you so reciprocate that love by being considerate of their finances.

A good résumé

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Good morning Blog-sphere,

How are we all doing? lets hope the introduction of N5ooo note isn’t getting to us just yet. by the way, my new job role have me opened to a lot of opportunities and new ideas which leaves me wondering why do we complain about unemployment when we are not even ready for one. The number one readiness to finding a good job is having a good resume / CV. Here are some tips i got from a wonderful job search site.

Your résumé (or CV) is your sales pitch on paper. It’s an important job-search tool that gives a summary of your background, work experience, skills and it’s usually your first contact with any potential employer.

How you go about preparing and presenting your résumé altogether determine whether you’ll land a job interview or not.

You may have the right qualifications but with a bad résumé – like what most job-seekers carry around-, you can hardly convince a potential employer you are fit for any job.

That said; however, here are essential features of a résumé that stands out:

–          A good résumé has a profile: unlike the résumé objective that focuses on you, a profile focuses on your employer by connecting your skills with the specific role. Having a profile also makes your résumé look more targeted and prevents it from looking like an information dump since your accomplishments have to match with the profile content. The more specific your profile, the more appealing your employer finds it.

–          A good résumé avoids spelling and grammatical errors: most employers would rather throw a résumé filled with errors out the window than having to expend their energy trying to pinpoint what the job candidate has to offer. Imagine you were the employer with a pile of résumés to screen, would you read any further a résumé that misspells your Company name or has a profile that reads “financial analist with a passion for new invstments…”? I guess not.

–          A good résumé efficiently uses keywords: citing words and sentences that are vital to the potential employer.

–          A good résumé is organize and professional: having the appropriate format, page color, font size and type, with few personal statements.

Tips to help you prepare a good résumé :

–          Avoid the use of ‘I’ in your accomplishments.  Use words like co-organized, co-led, worked with a team, etc.

–          Use the right fonts type and size, bullet points and double-line spacing for clarity. Also use Bold and italics to emphasize relevant points. Avoid paragraph formatting.

–           Do not use ambiguous words or too many Industry jargon in a bid to impress your reader, simple sentences or catch-phrases are very necessary to allow your employer an easy read.

–          Include skills that are relevant to the employer. Explicitly use words in the job description. Write a title which contains the name of the position you are applying for, this would make you look the ideal applicant at first glance.

–           Weave in accomplishments that match the title concisely stating the problems you solved or the values you added to your previous employers. You can also make good use of figures to quantify your achievements and bring life to your experience statements. Include awards, publications and certifications if you have any, to deepen impressions in the reader’s mind.

–          Your CV should not be more than 3-pages long. Focus on what you can offer and not merely list irrelevant responsibilities.

–          Ensure to set the tone of your résumé by including a few personal interests as additional information; this helps your reader match your skills and qualifications with a picture. Though in a less formal manner, these personal interests however must relate to your formal skills as aligned in the résumé. Interests like surfing the internet or watching movies shouldn’t be in your résumé.

–          Take out time to proofread your résumé; give it to friends, siblings or mentors who can proofread it objectively. It won’t hurt to edit your résumé one more time.

Lastly, bear in mind that a good résumé should not only effectively communicate those skills that match with the job requirements, but also persuasively tell the employers what they stand to gain hiring you the candidate.

It’s however advisable that you explore professional résumé writing services, with experts who have up-to-date knowledge in résumé requirements and the requisite experience to help you look good on paper.

Credits: Jobberman.com